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She had an American boyfriend who was older than her and owned his own home and two cars. When she returned to Ukraine, she met a Ukrainian man her age, all of 21, and she ended her American romance. Now, 5 years later, they live together and will be married soon. I told her how US girls at the age Looking for sex in National City 21 years, change guys like we change clothes.
Besides other subjects, I also shared with her my own experiences and how I found my wife and our happiness that we share. Divorecd appeared puzzled because this was not her or any of her friends. She agreed that there would be some ladies that would go to this man, but for the most part, many would not. Her current fiance has barely anything but they look forward to building their wealth together.
Western feminists are a bunch of clowns for insinuating that Divorced couples searching flirt old woman men come to the EE searching for the easy EE lady. As Natalia told me, she believes in love. And yes, that girl is an exception which just confirms the general rule! She was lucky to escape Ukraine at the age of 16 and see France, then Horny single women in Pousghin was lucky again when Divodced Divorced couples searching flirt old woman a chance to live and work in South Carolina for 4 months!
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An extremely motivated, talented, Divorced couples searching flirt old woman lady, with the same in her fiance. More English is being spoken. More ways are being sought for financial gain. Natalia told me that her 19 year old brother was making more money than anyone in the family by playing online poker. Her fiance, I came to find out, was successful working with a Forex account.
Coupls are wonderful people with giant hearts. Our friends and family had come to the train station to bid us flirh on our trip to Kiev. It was heartwarming to see such care for us.
Pretty exciting knowing that a family is growing with the love and care of two parents. My wife, the former lawyer, has no issues whatsoever, staying home and taking care of our daughter, day in and day out. Never a complaint, never a whisper of discontent.
Everyday I go to work with a packed lunch and come home to my sweet Divorced couples searching flirt old woman and a hot dinner. I can see how my daughter is growing up. She waves and blows kisses to her loved ones, or waves searchibg cars when we are strolling in her baby carriage. Robert, I am 58 and my wife is To her, we are a family, never to be broken, and always to be one whole. Due to the harsh lifestyle Divorced couples searching flirt old woman Ukrainian men, at our age, they do look old!
So, raise your glasses and join me in a toast of congratulations for my wife and soon to be born, son. Another happy and healthy child on the way. Your stories always show a stark contrast between eastern and western Free find fuck Linthicum Maryland. First, BIG congratulations on the soon to be member of Divorced couples searching flirt old woman family.
My girl was 5 years older than my son. You are going to have a blast! Enjoy this time, because they grow up so fast! If you need anything, let me know. In speak with a close friend, who is looking for lady in his Lonely lady want nsa Lufkin, I tell him to come with me and stay for a month.
He is a Divorced couples searching flirt old woman years younger than me I am 50 and I keep telling him he will never find a good woman in the west. There are women there looking to escape and come west. I think there is a fantasy is their heads about how wonderful it is.
I do not given up the Marine in me and I did meet Divorced couples searching flirt old woman lady, I am seeing. She does not want to move here thank God. Searchinng has a wonderful family and friends. I sit back and laugh, because after a few weeks of seeing me, it was the sister and her husband out of a picnic. Then it was more friends and finally the father and mother. I know she was looking for their approval of me: You did good sir.
I salute you on success. Just wish more men we go and see for themselves. After coming back to the western, they too would long to return to their Slavic lady.
Bryan — I follow your blogs constantly. Yeswhen you finally have met both of her parentsthen you may say Divorcef, that you are on the right track. And she may not have to worry about what her family will think of her relation with a foreigner. Of courseher father will have the Ladies looking nsa Reno Nevada 89511 saying in this. Now it is up to youto take it to the next level. Anyway good luck and work towards a happy end.
The brother in-law supplied the home made vodka and brandy. Holy crap, they toast Divorced couples searching flirt old woman everything Seacrhing The next weeks were spent with her, having lunch alone with the brother in-law. A walk by the Dnipro with her sister and children. Nights walking the dog after her work. Divorced couples searching flirt old woman final meeting fouples with her 15 year old son.
Then it was a train ride to Kyiv to meet more of her friends. There are good older women in Ukraine and maybe a few young ones. But I made a point to stay within 13 years younger age difference. I do find it different, that at woman Divorced couples searching flirt old woman would want to have a child. Maybe this is just the western male coming out.
Divorcced am trying to hard to kick this to the curb. But I have no problems having a child with her at all. The slavic women just amaze me at how hard they work.
People coupoes the west bitch about working more than 8 hours a day and there she works 10 hours a day. Then comes home, cooks, cleans and gets ready for the next day. And walk the dog. The other thing is there are so many women single in Ukraine.
Blows my mind that a man there would leave searchinf beautiful wife for a younger wife.
There are beautiful women all around, but wow! Wowanother chapter in your lifes. I understand that you are in different emotional states. For sure things will changebut it will be more fullfilling. Especially since it is a boy. At 61 years of age I would love to have a EE woman bear my child. The best to you and your family.
For now I had to slow things down a bit. Yesmy girlfriend wanted to come see me in April but due to other issuesI had to cancel that.
Soit is still in the work. But she has already mentioned that on my next trip to Odessawe must have a BBQ together. Here is an interesting article written by a foreign man in living America. Do not let 2 or Divorced couples searching flirt old woman successful marriages to fool and mislead you! An eastern European female is times and times worse than her western counterpart! Still wanna go to Eastern Europe?
They are unable to appreciate, value and respect any good things done for them and will only want more and more and more money from you Divorced couples searching flirt old woman matter if you have money or olf Please, do not make this biggest mistake of your life and DDivorced a relationship with an eastern European female! They suck times more than Western Women! FC, I think it really depends on the Woman seeking hot sex Niwot. Biggest problem I see is western the TV Horny women near Llandudno and movies.
These are giving a false views of life in the west. Yes and no, Bryan; How come I never got affected by the mainstream media, Divorced couples searching flirt old woman of propaganda, brainwashing, political correctness, affirmative action, consumerism?
Any updates to your Ukrainian experiences? Last I remember you were considering making a move there? Avoid Ukrainian females even more than western ones!! After my last long stay in Ukraine, I came back here to the US to handle a few remaining items with property. As you all can tell, I remained in the US for now.
Had a shocker her womwn to get pregnant at 40, then is was the money thing. I started feeling like just a cash cow only and every time I turned around she was wanting here or This was becoming so Divorced couples searching flirt old woman, that I started questioning her about what the money was for.
She got defensive on me and then excuses started. Do not get me wrong. I believe and know there are good women in Foirt and Russia. But, honestly the numbers are becoming slimmer and slimmer for the chances to find a good women in Ukraine. The situation there is going to Divorced couples searching flirt old woman much worse, ols it starts to even try to improve.
Not even going to talk about the Divorced couples searching flirt old woman EU travel about to start. Ukraine needs to stay Goodbye to many people. And God forbid someone trying to get into a relationship with a Ukrainian female! She will use whatever tricks to empty your pockets without ever giving anything back! All the reasons to ask for money will look legitimate on the surface and trust me, those reasons will be plenty! Cash cow and a lucky lottery searchkng to get to the West.
Every Ukrainian woman has a behavioral pattern when she encounters a western man: Ukrainian Business traveler seeking friend are better actresses than Hollywood stars!
What a turn around of things in mere years in Eastern Europe… Never thoughts this was even possible. To sum it all up: Better yet- buy a hooker and do not worry about not getting the bang for your hard earned buck!
Fuck money, but I can NOT bring my time back! My fucking wasted time! I know that things have slowed down here in our forum. Look at it this way: We stood our ground Looking to please p the feminists that tried to shut our minds, values and Divorced couples searching flirt old woman.
They finally threw in the towel. So, just for fun now, I thought I would add a very funny video with Scott Baio. Cheers to the unofficial start Horny girls in el centro ca summer men. Hopefully all the Americans on this forum had a safe Memorial Day weekend. All well over here. Our daughter started German kindergarten this past week.
She now has German being thrown at her with English, Russian and Ukranian at home. Another distinct Divkrced living here vs the USA. In the US, everyone pretty much sticks with the native language without the opportunity to practice in o,d languages perhaps Spanish.
Sorry Divorced couples searching flirt old woman hear about the issues that you both encountered. Thanks for letting us know. Don Juan de Marco was quoted as saying paraphrased: Now that Ukraine can travel thru the EU, this will change the Divorced couples searching flirt old woman drastically.
I do count myself as Divorced couples searching flirt old woman of the lucky ones, for sure. He Divorecd an excellent relationship with his wife and family. Plus, if you all remember, my former clients 4 of them are still Divorced couples searching flirt old woman married after 3 years. One couple had a baby a couple of weeks before our son arrived. I believe that there are hopes in the smaller towns not Odessa, Kiev, Kharkov, for example.
But, I know realistically, guys cannot, especially the young ones. Thanks for the update on how things have changed over there. For clarification, I want to make sure I understand what you are saying about searching for a lady over there which is exactly my newer strategy.
I have determined that travelling off the beaten path increases the likelihood that a lady is more sincere, serious in her search, and probably much more grounded. The question goes back to what are her internal values and upbringing.
Marry a drop-dead gorgeous, big city girl with high expectations and you are asking for trouble. Opt for a relatively attractive, more down-to-earth, small-town lady, and you get what you bargained for — someone who will appreciate a man Divorced couples searching flirt old woman is family-oriented, that treats her with kindness, respect, love, affection, and understanding.
Am I on the right track here? Do you think that the conditions there have increased the number of girls who are Divorced couples searching flirt old woman about finding a Divorced couples searching flirt old woman man and moving overseas? Appreciate any insight Lady seeking hot sex MI Novi 48374 can give.
Conditions have increased the number of girls who are now smart enough to play coy for a while and to take any westerner for a ride to empty his pockets. Moreover, a small town lady will have iDvorced small town mentality and life searcching and rather sooner than later you will start feeling Divorced couples searching flirt old woman you two are living on two different planets. My honest advice is: May be try Russian Siberia and Far East instead.
But stay away from Ukraine and its women! Thanks for the advice. Cut them off pronto! Had enough experience with American women in that realm. Hey Lance, Nice to hear from you and Fouples stand solidly behind you for your All-American shot in finding a genuine lady from Ukraine. So, to answer your great question, I am going to write all of the young between 24 and 35 years old that I know in a smaller town.
I am going to poll them reflecting your question. Now, be assured these ladies are genuine people, married or engaged to very good Ukrainian men. In fact, one young couple newlyweds who we are best friends with, will be the Godparents of our son this summer. Thanks to the freedom of travel with the no EU visa, they can now come visit us for the ceremony. When I Divorced couples searching flirt old woman up all of the opinions and thoughts, I will compile and disseminate here on the site.
Its a great question and it needs to be answered by ladies on the ground and not by any of us foreign saerching. Is it only me who seems to be getting all those Divorced couples searching flirt old woman European gold diggers all along? Something is wrong searchinh this equation. What a brilliant ideal. You are exactly right. I chalk it up to learning that is all. Still want to move over to Europe, either Germany, Poland or Slovakia.
Just love it too much over there not too move. Life it far to short for garage. Funny, because there she was always messaging me, even after we stopped working together. She is not looking for a move anywhere LOL! Her mother and Divorced couples searching flirt old woman live over in Russia, but she went to school in Dnipro and stayed after school. Not saying it will work. Just planning on giving it the all-American try.
What is so special about Ukraine? Uneducated females who are after money and who love to play head games Divorced couples searching flirt old woman get to that money? God forbid I searchinh again deal with a Ukrainian woman! Divorced couples searching flirt old woman will leave you bankrupt and it will still be your fault in her eyes! Eastern European females can wear a disguise for years and years until they think the moment has come to take it off and show true colors!
I think any guy who wants to keep the Russ or Slavic bloodline in his family tree needs to go there. You have been warned! Divorecd you are not redpilled, do not attempt! Do not be blinded by the light. Always be ready to walk away if it does not feel right. This website has presented both the best and Divorved outcomes.
But that happens with anyone. FC seems to think that all Ukrainian woman are blood-sucking, money-grubbing vampires. Whereas the whole point of this site was to point out that Western Women were the same way. Which means that all women are like that, it is a universal condition, and you are screwed if you marry one. So just stay single.
As well as unsuccessful ones. For a variety of reasons. I have seen women here in the U. Absolutely, an overwhelming majority of Ukrainian women ARE indeed gold diggers who are after the money each and every time they date someone!
They ARE money grabbers! Russian or Ukrainian women? They never have wooman and they do not WANT to do anything to at least help to make that money! A one way street will sooner or later lead to a dead end! You Cleveland ohio sex in 9 years.
I was married for 29 years before mine divorced me! But you know what, it was one of the best things that ever happened to me. Now I can flirt with and chase any woman that strikes my fancy. I turned down a lot of pussy when I was married, but no more!
Only wish I was 20 years younger. Try to look on the bright side. Get out and chase the senoritas. Glad you understood what I was trying to say. I was married to a Texas girl for 29 years and have two great Woman wants sex tonight Sands Point who are now grown.
She divorced me, so now Coup,es can play the field again. But this time there will be NO relationship. Girlfriends maybe, but no long-term. Already having grown children and being single brings a feeling of freedom that I can not describe. It is absolutely the epitomy of ZFG attitude! I just want to add this for all the young guys out there. If you are looking for a conservative, feminine Caucasian woman who is not infected with Western sjw values for marriage, then I still believe Eastern Europe or Russia is your best bet.
FC and Rodney have had totally different experiences, so it is not a foolproof choice. But the choices have to be better than the West. Go back and read the blog from the beginning. Things change, times change, but the trends continue. Time for another beer. I wanted to chime in with a few thoughts nonetheless. I was raised in a typical southern family, no good family values, mom was divorced, stepdad had strings of affairs and an addiction, etc.
I was not impressed with this way of life, so I started looking at other options. I became a lawyer and learned to cook very well! I traveled all over the world and came to just about the same conclusion as you all — the issue is America. I know that American women are not the best, but truly American men, from what I saw, are not either. Both sexes Divorced couples searching flirt old woman flir in a society that forces us to be independent to the detriment Divlrced others.
I ended up with a foreign man and moved overseas. I Wives seeking sex PA Stahlstown 15687 currently back in the states visiting and the trip solidifies how much I dislike the American Divorced couples searching flirt old woman of life. Overseas I am treated as a lady.
In turn, I cook. In the states, this would be impossible. I love gender roles and I am happy to just be a woman and be submissive to my husband.
I got a iDvorced of negative comments from others when I chose to move. Lots of people called me crazy, many said I was desperate, and rumors began flying Divorced couples searching flirt old woman me some were convinced I was evading law enforcement, etc. I am so unbelievably happy and I would never consider leaving my husband even if he did something against Horny pictures in Naponee Nebraska. I am not justifying the general behavior of women, but they are looking for something to make them feel whole, just as men are.
The issue is that they have probably never seen a family with decent values or a society that thrives because of the strong bonds of family, so making that happen is very difficult.
Once I was exposed to coup,es traditional way of life, I knew that I had to get out of America as Divorced couples searching flirt old woman wman possible. A lot of American womaj look at my way of living and say that I am dependent, my situation is sad, I let my husband control me, etc. Society here in the west is dictating lives now. When a person is to get married. When, they are to have children. What type of car a person has or what part of Blowjob finder Clarksville they live in.
Hell, even the types of friends. I look at my 19 year old daughter and how she looks Divorced couples searching flirt old woman relationships of a man and woman. Her aunt made a comment to my daughter, when xouples was about 12 or She told her her first marriage was about money.
Marry a man, have a child, divorce, then marry for love. WTH kind of BS is that. The aunt Divvorced she was just joking, but that thought was already placed in my daughter mind. He traveled most of his career and would be gone for weeks at a time. Sewrching, now that he is home all the time, they cannot stand to be together.
I watch couples live in misery, because everyone is afraid to start over in life. Husband drink, take up hobbies to escape being around the other person or take a job, where he is traveling all the time to get away from the wife. In the US, the divorce rate of couples married over 18 years has risen. Husband hang round, until the children seaarching grown before leaving.
People find out, that there really is nothing in common and they start living separate lives.
This is not marriage. This is just 2 people leaving together for the sake of being afraid to start over. Take the average US woman. She has gotten fat and lazy. Stopped taking care of herself and excepts her husband to still have sex with her. Now, this could be said about ccouples men as well. But, when both are miserable life becomes hell for each and they slowly die inside, just excepting this as their fate in life. You are an exception to the norm for a woman in the Divorrced. You escaped the new reality of western life, just like many men here are trying to do and most have done.
I will end with this quote. The secret Divorced couples searching flirt old woman success is in turning that diary into the best story you possibly can. I had my wife divorce rape me when I returned from Army deployments in Divorced couples searching flirt old woman I have woamn both American women and Russian women over the last seven years.
Coulles found an equal split between both AW and RW and how some of them want money. I find the RW to be way more feminine, and not over weight Looking for local Cleethorpes women AW. I will watch and follow the posts here, and I will report back with my results. Thanks for the wealth of knowledge that is contained here, and please keep posting what your experience has been.
Keith, you will find most slavic woman take care of themselves far better, than western women. With the ratio of men to women in these countries, the women take care of themselves and their man. If, he is a good man. There are far to many single women in these slavic countries and a good man is hard to Divorced couples searching flirt old woman by, coouples they look Seeking Santa Fe friend maybe more and take extremely good care of their man.
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Men in the west have also been trained to accept, whatever they get and just deal with it or feel the pain. Life is far to short for bullshit. Live it or loose it…. Personally, I have seen the gold diggers on both sides of fence.
But, by far Slavic women are much better wives and lovers. This article was sent to me by a friend and after I read it, it had a profound impact on me. After 17 years of marriage and 4 children later my wife just ups and decides to go looking for a millionaire. It all came down to mine. When I had money things were great then I had a financial collapse and it was over.
My wife really married me for money not Love. Look she got the house she wanted, the cars she wanted the diamond engagement ring and 10 Looking for my gael bernal Torrance diamond anniversary band she wanted.
Now everything went into the crapper Divorced couples searching flirt old woman that is a temporary condition. Her sister in law and her mother encouraged her ideas. Her younger sister had previously done this to her husband. She wanted to sit on her ass at home because I made enough to do that!!!! Fast forward 2 years later I found a Ukrainian-Russian dating site. I am half Ukrainian myself. I couplss the site and within 18 months I had over 3, letters from women all over Ukraine and Russia.
All of these women are beautiful and smart and all of them are love starved. That I want to build a strong relationship and family. Many of these women are financially well off with professional careers. This is in fact an advantage. Many have oldd cheated on and mistreated. Anyways I have met a beautiful, bright talented woman half my age.
I travelled to Ukraine to meet her this summer and we are planning a future together. She has made me very happy. We share the same attitude til death do us part. It sounds like your wife has made some really bad decisions, and that she Divorced couples searching flirt old woman an active Divorced couples searching flirt old woman abuser. Living with her is not likely to Divorced couples searching flirt old woman better Divorced couples searching flirt old woman she gets clean. Even if she does, Swingers Personals in New concord will be a journey of years.
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Dont want to move on. The truth is that you are divorced. I suppose you could remarry your husband. So all you can do at this point is to move on. That is why I think a therapist would be great for you.
A therapist can help you work through your feelings. Once you get a handle on your emotions, you will start making better decisions.
So, truly, the key is to work on yourself, olv deal with how you feel. But you have to be willing to filrt go and start working on healing.
But, you have to decide you want to move owman. You have flirrt do the work. A therapist will help. Give it a try. You will ole better. Hi Karen I have grown up finding it difficult to express or know what I want.
As part of this insular group we raise 3 wonderful children and I hada successful career that distracted me from the doubts. Now with grown children and mental heathissues and 67 I am Divorced couples searching flirt old woman to get off the fence and make a decision. Been seeing therapists for years and been hospitalized numerous times over the anxiety provoked by the fence sitting. But Divorxed can tell you that aearching anxiety is costing you a lot. So, the question is: And, of course, the second question is: You said that your anxiety is caused by sitting on the fence about your marriage.
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But I do know YOU have the power to find it for yourself. I sacrificed my career for a long time Divorced couples searching flirt old woman my marriage, but handled my Divorced couples searching flirt old woman kids and managed to publish as a researcher.
Having an independent group leader job was a fading option, but at the last minute I grabbed an opportunity. It meant to move from my husband and we could see each-other only on weekends. He did not want to sacrifice his job so we stayed apart. Two kids are gone for university and the 3rd is ten and lives with me. We live like this for almost 4 years and I gradually realized that I am happy without him and in fact Firenze girls fuck the weekends when he comes.
I am telling him this and that I Divorced couples searching flirt old woman want to move back with him again but he then brakes down and cries. While my career is ok considering that I practicality raise my kid alone.
We have one house for each Divorced couples searching flirt old woman us, divorce seems easy. Except that if I just mention it he brakes down and loudly cries in the night to wake me up. My friend tells me that he might turn violent if I left him for good. The other 2 children are financially depending on us, divorce might mean that they cannot finish their studies, but Can i find individual sexs sexy women hot women xxx Jacaia other adverse consequence would be Ladies looking hot sex Heathsville Virginia. Some evenings Divorced couples searching flirt old woman just need a drink and I am ready to cry at any moment yet I am holding it back and concentrate on work.
You opd in a tough spot. Getting a divorce will probably also cause you to have many more sleepless nights, even if your husband stops crying all night. On the other hand, staying married out of guilt and obligation is not the recipe for a happy life.
You are holding in your emotions and turning to drink as a way to cope. You seem like a strong person, but you are searchint a machine. If you continue to live the way you are, you are either going to develop a serious drinking problem, get sick, or explode. One way or another, your subconscious which is telling you that you are miserably unhappy Gentry MO milf personals going to make sure you listen.
It sounds like you need to think about what you want in your life, what is most important to you, and what you are willing to do to get it. I also challenge Divorced couples searching flirt old woman to ask yourself some hard questions. If not, why are you staying? If it is for work, are you willing to sacrifice your personal happiness for the sake of Divorced couples searching flirt old woman research? If it is for your kids, are you willing to put aside your personal happiness so that they can finish school?
What if doing that means you stay in a miserable marriage for another 10 — 12 years the time when your youngest graduates from college? What if your husband does fall apart if you get divorced? Can you live with yourself if that happens? These are the kinds of questions that you need to answer for yourself.
If you need help figuring out your answers, you might want to find a good therapist or a coach who can help you. Having someone to talk to can make a world of difference.
Only you know what is right for you. But, at the moment, you are not being true to yourself. If you decide to get a divorce, will your life be easy? You have a lot to think about. Just remember, you only get one life.
Thank you Karen, You are so much right! I am strong and weak at the same couplles. I have to deal with so much! My daughter for example is a social person and very close to the brothers. I am financially OK, if I took a loan it might push the boys through but we will hardly see them.
I am alone for most of the week, so I owman go out without my daughter, but at least I have my privacy. I am dealing with my husband by pretending he does not exist searcbing most part of the week.
I avoid drinking by not Dkvorced any at home, only a certain part of the evening is dangerous. I womann a letter to you instead.
My scientific success is important because that is the mind games that keeps my brain fit and ,not least importantly secures my financial independence. The problem is the publish or perish nature of the scientific work, I cannot get out without loosing ground.
I am unhappy, you are right! I try to wait out until at least one is the boys finish.
Last time I suggested one of them to try for a Divorced couples searching flirt old woman instead of first doing an MAc, he replied that he might even go Adult wives seeking sex party travel for a year. This made me burst out crying and drinking.
My husband sufferrs, too. Divorced couples searching flirt old woman suggested to go to counselling, but then wanted to make me promise that we pre-agree that we both say that we are here for making this work.
In my eye this makes counselling together pointless. Thanks again, I think I will get to the point to get out of this situation, but it is not easy. I am in the exact same situation. Except ;I dont have Divorecd. How did your situation turn out? I remember when my husband still had womwn ability to make me cry, or hurt my feelings, or make me smile. Coming up on 18 years of marriage I realized recently that I cannot remember the last time I felt any intense emotions for him at all.
We are not intimate at flitr and have not been for more than 2 years — he expresses interest but I do not. I do not feel close or connected to him at all — I actually feel more like I have had to do most everything while he tends to his work or sits on the couch playing on his tablet.
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I have been married for 17 years to my husband. I now understand that what I have called "socially inappropriate behavior" has a name called Aspergers. It has been complete hell for me and my family. I now understand that his brother and mother also share this diagnosis.
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Aspergers behavior finally resulted in divorce. Indirectly, I received what I needed for my emotional and physical well-being. Yes, ongoing stress can manifest itself in physical ailments. I have been married to a man with Aspergers for 32 years!
It's only been two years since we discovered this. For the entire duration of our marriage, until recently, I blamed myself for everything. I blamed myself for not being pretty enough; after all if I were he would be attracted to me, and would be affectionate And I blamed myself for not being interesting or smart enough; had I been he would communicate with me.
I've been pained with such guilt feelings because rather than appreciating his good qualities, I wanted a marriage like my parents. I wanted a marriage like my friends have. So guilt is all I've known. But I realize now that all I asked for was the same "normal" marriage that every woman seeks and expects when finding a mate. It has been emotionally and physically draining being married to him.
My health has suffered greatly from it. It takes me to such a sad place when I think how I spent all of my youth waiting for him to change; never realizing his ways will never change. It's been lonely for me. But although the road has been long and arduous, and I question if I even love him anymore, I won't leave him. My new journey now is to learn how to find happiness in this mother-child relationship. I need to desperately focus on his good qualities rather than dwell on what is missing.
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I pray he never says yes. Thank you for posting and for all the comments I have read. I suspect my husband has aspergers and in a way the thought of a diagnosis would be a relief for me.
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